Our 20-something sons are moving back in for awhile for a bunch of reasons, none of which are anybody's business but our own.
Yet we're getting plenty of judging feedback. Not from psychologists or clergy or self-help gurus.
Nope, most of the tut-tut is coming from people who don't have kids, who haven't helped with homework, who have no idea about the price of young men's car insurance, who haven't paid attention to the way college funding has dried up for all but the most exceptional students, who think rip-off loans are just the price kids should pay for survival in this society, and who apparently haven't heard about kids with BAs helping people set up their Sleep Number beds or doing payroll for beauty supply companies.
FYI, my kids work their asses off and play fabulous original music and have a bunch of great friends, many of whom are in the same boat. They work full time, they pull their weight in society, they value family and integrity and creativity and kindness.
It is true that they are not on linear paths through life and they are not great at math. Nor are they currently making enough money to support themselves. So sue them.
We support their creative efforts and want to help them out a little. So sue us, too.
Frankly, I like having them around. They'll figure things out eventually. Meanwhile, judgers, please avert your eyes while we do what parents do.